The best advice I could give someone who is recently or even not recently divorced is to try to patch things up. There will never be a relationship like your first marriage. The bond that is formed in marriage is meant to be a life long commitment. Times get tough, and someones seem so difficult. But the rewards are plenty, and often. I heard of a video series titled “how to get your ex back, ” that has helped thousands of couples get back on track with their marriage and have rekindled their love that they thought was gone forever.